SMH - Simply Must Have: The first step is to choose a goal that you simply must have. Throw out anything that you would "like" to accomplish or that would be "nice" to have. Pick a goal that you simply must have this year, whatever it takes.

BER - Big Enough Reasons: Once you have chosen your goal, identify several "big enough reasons" for why you must achieve this goal. What will you be able to do that you cannot do now after you achieve this goal? Make sure your reasons are big and compelling.

WID - Write It Down: It never fails - the weakest ink is always stronger than the best memory. Write down what you want. In this way, it becomes a document that you can see, and not just a nice idea floating around in your already full brain.

MIS - Make It Specific: If you want to get rid of weight, how much? If you want to get out of debt, do you mean everything but the house, or something else? If you want to save money, how much? If you want to get in better shape, how do you want to look? Getting specific narrows your focus to what you really want.

KIC - Keep It Close: Now that you have written your goal and made it specific, keep it close to you. Put a copy on the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator, in your purse or wallet, on your computer wallpaper, etc. You get the picture. You want to keep it close to keep you reminded.

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"Goals. There’s no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There’s no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And there’s no telling what will happen when you act upon them." ~ Jim Rohn

Would you like to achieve positive results in your life and get what you really want? This tried and tested goal setting strategy is an effective way to set and achieve your goals. My Ten Top Tips are as follows:

• Write them down. By writing down your goals you are showing personal commitment and declaring your intention to succeed, as well as helping to clarify your thinking.

• Be specific. Write down goals that are specific, measurable and positive. Focus clearly on what you desire, not what you lack or want to get rid of from your life.

• Have a time limit. Set a date by which you will have achieved each of your goals. Otherwise, it’s like starting a football match without having agreed when the game is to end!

• Think of the benefits. Think through all the benefits of achieving your goals, and write them all down. This helps you clarify why they are important to you, visualise and feel what it will be like to achieve them, check how committed you are to working on them - and all this will help energise and motivate you if the going gets tough.

• Consider options and obstacles. How many ways can you think of to achieve your goal? Evaluate the results and consequences of each. What could stop you or cause a problem? And what about subconscious obstacles? Complete this sentence several times to find out more – “I want to achieve (name your goal) but………”

• Make a detailed plan. Having chosen your preferred way forward, identify all the actions you’ll need to take. This breaks a seemingly big and daunting task down into manageable steps, enables you to plan what to do, prepare for problems, and reduces resistance to actually getting started.

• Identify resources. What skills, knowledge, ability and contacts do you already have? What additional resources will you require? What changes do you need to make? Realistically review and assess this when making your plan, and ask for extra support as required.

• Balance and fit. Check that all the areas of your life are in balance – if not, will your various goals make this happen? Will your goals support your long term plans and fit your ambitions, are they worthy of you, do they reflect your values? So while you are building that great career or business, ensure that you are also looking after your health, relationships, fun time, wealth and personal development etc.

• Take action! Make a start. Actually take the first step you identified when you formed your plan of action.

• Review and reward. Set some interim milestones as part of your initial strategy. This means you can check your progress regularly and see that you are moving in the right direction. And as part of this process acknowledge your achievements along the way and reward yourself for everything you accomplish. Celebrate!

Copyright Jackie Fletcher 2005

Jackie Fletcher is a life satisfaction and mentor coach, working with busy professionals, small business owners and new coaches, helping them create and live the life they really want – balanced, successful and happy. For more information visit http://www.transitionslifecoaching.co.uk

I know you have heard that old disclaimer by science that planetary bodies are too far away to have any effect upon the lives of human beings. But now that belief is no longer held by the scientific community. In fact, it has been proven by Dr. Percy Seymour, an astronomer at Plymouth University, that the effect of planets upon our lives is not dependent upon distance. This means that we are all affected by the magnetic influences of the planets whether we believe it or not.

The power of the Moon has the most immediate effect because it changes signs so often. The Moon magnetizes a different astrological sign (energy field) every two and a half days. This means that it travels through all of the 12 signs of the zodiac during its lunar cycle.

What does this mean for you?

Think about the sign your Sun was in at the time your were born. This means that if you inherited the attitudes of Virgo when you were born, your Sun was in the sign of Virgo. Since signs are attitudes, you have the tendency to be efficient, organized, seek perfection, and like to be of service. Each month, when the Moon passes through Virgo, it will energize your Virgo tendencies. Your Virgo, nit-picking attitudes will be very strong during the Moon’s two and a half day journey through the sign of Virgo.

This means that everyone’s specific attitudes are stimulated by the Moon at some time during each month.

This is why it makes perfect sense to use the energies of the Moon to bring out a particular attitude (sign) that you want to express. For example, if you were born at the time when Mars was in the sign of Aries and need a lot of physical strength to compete in an event, you would be a lot more energetic if you did so on a day when the Moon was in Aries. This would be especially true if the Moon were full. It is full of energy. This is the essence of proper timing.

If you will use the energies of the Moon to help you get specific goals accomplished in your daily living, you will soon discover its power, and it will no longer be a mystery to you.

(c) 2005 Randall Curtis

Randall Curtis is a professional astrologer with world-wide clients. If you wish to become a certified, professional astrologer, check out The Institute of Professional Astrology. Click on this link for insights into your relationships, free astrology lessons, professional analysis of your secret energy cycles and complete life reading.

"You don’t get points for predicting rain. You get points for building an ark." Louis Gerstner, former Chairman and CEO of IBM

It’s that time of year again: time to reflect back on the past year and evaluate relationships; examine areas where you spent your valuable time, money, and energy; ponder goals set last year and revise new ones accordingly; and count your many blessings.

As I spend time these next few days looking over notes from years past, I will make every effort to draft goals for the New Year that will help me move further down the path. To becoming more of the person whom I hope to become. My goal every year is to become more saint-like, and many areas in my life need to be addressed in order to help me evolve–step by step–to that end.

I will not suppose that what works for me will work for you. I will only share what I do in the hope that it might help you as you prepare for the coming New Year.

I rely on my Filofax, where I write all of my goals down in colored ink on colored paper. Over the years I have called my goals various things, but as of last year they became known as the "6 F’s." Here goes…

1) FAITH

How can I get myself further down the spiritual path and become more saintlike? Specific steps I might record to get me closer to my goal would include: disciplined and consistent reading of scripture, journaling, reading books on spirituality, plugging into a charitable organization whose vision fits that of my family’s, taking a mission trip, maintaining a "bloom where planted" attitude about life, etc.

2) FAMILY

How can our family–including my husband, our four kids, myself, and the dog–become the strongest and happiest group of people as we share life together? And what things do I need to be pro-actively instilling into our family’s structure to ensure happy childhoods for each of our four kids? What is my vision for each child? What gifts and talents does this child have and what do we need to do to help him develop them for other people’s benefit? Specific steps might include: planning a family summer vacation, replacing TV with a family reading night, investments in music lessons, commitment to sports teams, scheduling weekly date nights, etc.

3) FRIENDS

How can I maintain the many friendships that I have formed over the years given the great physical distances that separate us, and how can I form new friendships with people who cross my path? Specific steps would include scheduled trips to visit girlfriends, frequent long-distance phone calls, celebrating birthdays with gifts and cards, continuing Christmas gift-giving traditions, etc.

4) FINANCIAL

How do we become more financially independent? How do we reduce debt and increase wealth? Steps would include my making a list of a realistic number of books to sell, seminars to schedule, articles to write, investments to make, savings goals to meet, tithing commitments to keep, etc.

5) FITNESS

How can I maintain a health and fitness regimen that keeps me in optimal physical and emotional health–while maintaining kids who are too young to maintain themselves? Specific steps would include scheduling a realistic number of trips to the gym per week, weekly commitments to swimming and tennis, and to weight training, etc.

6) FUN

What things would I enjoy doing personally and with my family that would help me enjoy life to its fullest? I would include specific trips and dates with Ernie, plans for vacations with the kids, Broadway shows, season tickets to the philharmonic, oil painting classes, etc.

Studies show that people who record their goals IN WRITING have a much greater chance of accomplishing them. Spend quality time thinking about specific goals that you’d like to make in your life. Begin the process now. Let your sub-conscious absorb the goals and let it help you figure out ways in which to make these goals realistically attainable. Consider your life stage. A trip to the gym might be quite realistic for me but a pipe dream for you if you have a newborn or a couple of toddlers underfoot. Don’t fret that your goals seem out of whack or not grand enough. Go easy on yourself and resolve to come up with goals that fit where you are and where you’d like to be by the end of the year. And remember to have fun with the process. Enjoy a glass of red wine and sit by the fire while you doodle your thoughts. Dream. Imagine.

ONE FINAL THOUGHT: Remember to count your blessings of this past year. Make a list. We are each coming to the dinner table New Year’s Eve night with our individual Top Ten Lists. Consider making this a New Year’s Eve tradition in your family, too. Nothing makes one feel better about the world than counting all the ways in which you have been uniquely blessed.

Please let me know if I can help you in your journey.

Have a blessed New Year. PEACE!

Carolina Fernandez earned an M.B.A. and worked at IBM and as a stockbroker at Merrill Lynch before coming home to work as a wife and mother of four. She totally re-invented herself along the way. Strong convictions were born about the role of the arts in child development; homeschooling for ten years provided fertile soil for devising creative parenting strategies. These are played out in ROCKET MOM! 7 Strategies To Blast You Into Brilliance. It is available on Amazon.com, in bookstores everywhere, or by calling 888-476-2493. She writes extensively for a variety of parenting resources and teaches other moms via parenting classes and radio and TV interviews. Please visit http://www.rocketmom.com to subscribe to her free ezine and get a weekly shot of inspiration.

What can you do to stay on track, when life throws so many obstacles in the way? How are you supposed to keep your chin up when the economy is down? How can you practice positive thinking “under fire?”

Truthfully, we are tested in “the heat of battle.” Anyone can be a clear and rational thinker when everything is going in the right direction. Your ability to maintain goals in “rough waters” is what separates the leaders from those who just want to lead.

When you elect to be a leader, you are judged by your ability to handle a crisis. The role is similar to the captain of a ship who must plug a hole or go down with the ship. It’s that simple, and that is the difference between a successful leader and one who would like to lead.

In the current business climate, with the pace of technology, and the skill of your competitors, you don’t have time to be depressed or draw a blank. You must take action and respond immediately to “damage repair.” There is simply no time for mourning over past mistakes.

The time of crisis, is the time for solutions. You must allow for thinking, prayer, meditation, “brain storming sessions,” or consultation with a coach. This allows you to “think outside the box.” This is where you will find creative solutions to your present obstacles of life.

Do you remember the saying, “Life is like a bowl of cherries?” Sometimes, we could say just the opposite, but life is what we truly envision. If you fear that everyone is talking badly about you, you will envision and perceive it. Paranoia becomes reality, and so it is with real life.

Take the time to recognize fear, paranoia, frustration, and negative feelings within you. Know your fears through self-analysis. You should know yourself better than anyone else. When you hear the little voice of negativity, in the back of your mind, give it some consideration. Don’t make fear of failure become your number one priority.

One more suggestion: Visit your local book store or shop online for a self-improvement book. You can choose audio, e-Book, or the traditional version. Each has its own usefulness in the course of your day. Make the most of your time, and listen to audio books while you are traveling. This gives you an inexpensive coach whenever you are alone or in transit.

Allow for quiet time in the early morning or later at night. This is time for reading, meditation, prayer, or creative thinking, to put what you learn into the planning stage and go after success with all of your resources.

Paul Jerard is a co-owner and the director of Yoga teacher training at: Aura Wellness Center, in North Providence, RI. He has been a certified Master Yoga teacher since 1995. He is a master instructor of martial arts, with multiple Black Belts, four martial arts teaching credentials, and was recently inducted into the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame. He teaches Yoga, martial arts, and fitness to children, adults, and seniors in the greater Providence area. Recently he wrote: Is Running a Yoga Business Right for You? For Yoga students, who may be considering a new career as a Yoga teacher. http://www.yoga-teacher-training.org/index.html

You can achieve anything you want. Yes, you can. But, like so many things there is a small catch. And here it is - no matter what it is that you desire you must believe strongly in it almost to the exclusion of everything else. Does that sound like an obsession?

Let me tell you how to turn your obsession into reality. You can do it via a little technique that I am going to outline for you.

But first, just so there is no misunderstanding I want to dispel a few myths. First, will just thinking about something bring your goal into existence? No it won’t. Materializing a thought can only occur if you add some action to your desire. That is the key. The physical actions must be directed by a concentrated train of thought.

In other words, the mind MUST become involved FIRST.

Think about it. Everything that has ever been brought into existence was first just a thought in the mind of its creator. It had to be.

Unfortunately for most, the humdrum of life gets in the way. But that is only because most people have no method for keeping their dreams and goals uppermost in their minds. Allow me to give you an example.

Let’s say you want to write a book. This is a good example for me because I have written several myself, so I know what I am talking about. Will merely thinking about writing a book get the job done? No. However, if you obsess on writing a book you will eventually spark yourself into action. Soon you will have outlined your plan. Something happened. You obsess some more and you are driven to write the first chapter. Pretty soon the action and not the thought is the motivator. The book virtually seems to be writing itself using your hand as the instrument. It becomes almost self-perpetuating.

Highly motivated people can do these things almost at will. But what about everybody else? Not everybody was born with great reserves of self-motivation. How can you train your mind well enough to do these things?

There is a method. It’s called an affirmation. First, you need to write your goal down on a small card. Next you read and focus on the words on that card as often as possible. It works. Constantly feeding your mind with the positive thought inspires not only action but also creativity. This method literally forces your mind to bring your goal into existence.

Here is a challenge for you. Try using the method I have outlined above for 30 days. For 30 days you need to read your affirmation as often as possible. Do not miss a single day. It only takes a minute to do. Read it every morning, every evening and as many times as you can in between. At the end of 30 days you will have progressed towards your goal. There is magic in this system. Try it. See for yourself.

Finally, let me leave you with this wonderful quote from Erma Bombek: When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me."

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Most people will agree that goal setting is an important strategy in obtaining what we desire. If you don’t set goals you will not know what to look for to determine whether an achivement was truly a success or not. The sad thing is that only a very small part of those who understand the need for setting goals actually take the time to figure out what they really want to accomplish and outline a plan for reaching them. It goes without saying that with this approach or shall we say lack of approach, determining which accomplishments are successful or not will be a little arbitrary; ‘more self reliant’, ‘a raise in salary’, ‘clear skin’, ‘a new home’ or ‘a new car’. It has been proven time after time that the more specific your goal is, the more you are likely to achieve it and the more likely you are to know when you have or have not achieved them.

Goals should move you ahead. When you make your goals absolute and precise you will know what to look for to find out if you have achieved them. If they are to general you can’t really know if you have reached your goals or they can even mislead you into achieving something other than you planned for. Setting precise goals functions as an instrumental part or reference of any self improvement regimen.

Goals forms an hierarchical system: There are many levels of goals. They spring from your deepest values and are transformed via various levels to precise day-by-day action plans for accomplishing what you really want. So, what do you really want? Are you sure the first goal that appeared in your mind is what you really want deep inside?

To summarize so far: A system for setting goals in a certain area must include

• your main or ultimate goal in this area, which all other goals are just a tranformation of

You must be sure what you really want to accomplish in a certain area according to your true values and you must know precisely what to do to acheive it.

Now, I’d like to tell you about a method of setting goals that I have used successfully myself.

The ‘Why – How method’ for setting goals

Take the first goal that appears in your mind right now. Let’s say you’ve found out that your big problem is that you just don’t have enough money from month to month and this is the rock in the road for you whatever you try to accomplish. So your goal is ‘to get rich’. Now you have two ways to go to elaborate and fullfill your work of setting goals and you should go both ways.

Ask ‘Why?’

Ask yourself; Is ‘getting rich’ my real goal or is this just a means to reach another, deeper goal? Ask yourself; Why do I want to get rich? Think over it for a while and write down all reasons why you want to accomplish the goal that has appeared in your mind. It might be; Financial security, freedom to travel where you want, freedom to visit any concert or opera-house you want, freedom to have a home you really feel confortable with etc. Whichever answer you give, continue to ask "Why" until you are not able to find any more reasons. If you have been honest with yourself, you probably found your deepest value, which equals the main goal you try to accomplish by ‘getting rich’.

Ask ‘How?’

Now, when you have revealed your ultimate goal or value by asking ‘Why?’, then start to figure out how to accomplish it. Let’s say you have come to the goal in your goal hierarchy that says ‘getting rich’. Your question now is: ‘How do I get rich?’ Your answer might be ‘Getting more income.’ Next ‘how much higher an income do I want, which also means; how rich do I want to be?" Then your answer might be ‘$20,000′. Continue asking ‘How?’ until you have made a precise action plan of what you will do to get these increased income of $20,000.

Reach milestones on your way

A goal can also be devided into several parts or milestones which marks that it is on it’s way to being fullfilled. Let’s take the $20,000 goal example. Let’s say one of your end goal is to

• ‘earn $20,000 within two years by promoting affiliate programs on 50 websites where each website is making you $16.67 per month on average.’

you should divide this goal into several smaller goals or milestones, let’s say one part of your goal is reached when you have earned $1000, one when you have reached $5,000, $10,000 etc. This way your goal achieving process becomes much more motivating and fun when you see the results fairly often.

Room for adjustments

A system for setting goals should also include a procedure for periodic adjustments; some actions are more likely to help you reach your goals faster than others. You’ll only know which actions or end goals these are by having a goal system that enables you to try out different action plans or end goals. You simply execute the end goals or action plans than you planned initially. If they work carry on with them and if they don’t or if you think of other ways that can fulfill your ultimate goal faster or better, than go for them. So, don’t forget that your system for setting goals must include this option also.

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about self help issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, goal setting for self improvement and self confidence improvement success.

Webster’s Dictionary defines goal \.2 as the end toward which effort is directed.

Do you have goal(s) in your life? Have you reduced your goal(s) to writing? Studies have been done by respected universities which

indicate 90% of us never set goals; of the 10% who do, only 3% actually write them down. This latter group consists of some the most successful people in all fields of endeavor.

Goal Setting requires first of all specificity. In other words “to be a success” is not a valid goal. Rather goals should sound like this: “By 2010,

I will have my own Carvel Franchise in Brooklyn’s Bensonhurst Section” or perhaps: “By next year this time I will have completed my first novel and submitted the manuscript to 10 publishers.”

Goals need proper maintenance, small adjustments that build on the main goal.

Immediately and audaciously begin to take action. Refine your goal(s) more and more. Post visual images of your goal in prominent locations, like your bathroom mirror, your pillow, refrigerator, your work area, your car, your brief case, and any where else you might regularly eye it.

Write down the benefits of achieving your goal: I will be happier, healthier, wealthier, etc. when I achieve ‘your particular goal.’ Act as if you have achieved your goal and are just filling in the details of how you got there. Keep a smile on your face. Reward yourself for each positive step you take, and don’t beat your self up over miscues/minor failures. They are a part of the ‘rungs of the ladder’ that lead you to the top.

Consider every obstacle you might encounter, along the way. Develop strategies for handling each circumstance. Common obstacles you are likely to confront are naysayers, lack of capital, small failures, digressions, competition, poor time management, etc. Know beforehand how you will overcome any obstacle that comes your way.

Gain as much knowledge as you can about your goal. If your goal is to be an Indy Car Driver, learn every detail about the car, the track and the competition. If your goal is to be a sports agent learn every detail about your competitors (fees they charge, who their clients are, what their shtick is, where they hang out, when and how they approach clients).

Develop support groups/mentors, who can provide you honest advice and counsel, help you overcome obstacles and keep you motivated.

Construct a plan of action, and meticulously work the plan. A popular adage says: “People don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan.” One common error is, mistaking activity for accomplishment.

Be committed. To paraphrase W. H. Macy, don’t be committed like a kamikaze pilot on his 12th mission.

Seek and seize opportunity. The mass of men call this luck; they believe success is serendipitous. As Zig Ziglar says: “Arise each morning when the ‘opportunity clock’ sounds” and greet God boldly with the words: “Lord we are going to have a great day.” Who could be a better partner than the Lord?

Remember you have the same number of hours in a day as any doctor, lawyer, entrepreneur, or for that matter, your average billionaire like Bill Gates. Use those hours wisely, “Age quod agis” – “do what you are doing,” always remaining focused. Understand you aren’t making sacrifices by giving up some habits and activities you enjoy, but rather that you are now investing your time and talent in yourself instead.

Don’t sit around waiting for things to happen. Make them happen. Ed McMahon isn’t going to knock on your door. If you want to succeed you must proceed without hesitation. Until you are truly committed and begin the journey to success, there is a good chance you may draw back. Don’t! Move forward and “seize the day.”

If you would like more information or personal assistance on setting and achieving goals contact Ann Marie or Al Parisi at lunchbagnotes.net.

Ann Marie is a teacher and author and speaker. She resides in Agoura Hills, California, with her co-writers and speakers, her brother Anthony and dad, Al.

One of the fundamental and basic aspects of modern personal development is the idea of having well formed outcomes in your life. It is very well documented these days, but so very few people actually do use them, and even fewer people create them properly and in a way that is useful.

Having NLP’s Well formed outcomes for your life can create well being in business, our personal lives, in relationships and so much more. So please be as flexible as you possibly can be while reading this; and I don’t mean read it while doing the splits!

In NLP (neuro linguistic programming), goal setting becomes more than just goal setting. We go beyond that and step into the realms of “desired outcome development.” By that, we are going beyond setting goals and moving into the realms of setting outcomes.

As you think about any area of your life that you would like to update or change or plan better for, or if you have an unfulfilled dream or something you are working towards, then creating an NLP well formed outcome can begin to get your unconscious mind and its related processes driving you towards that without you even having to know how.

How do goals and outcomes differ? Goals are general and outcomes are specific. An outcome represents a goal developed with specificity that enables us to have a very clear understanding of what to do.

A well formed outcome enables us to create specific pictures, sounds, feelings and words. Then that image, that outcome activates our abilities and resources for achieving that outcome. The NLP well formed outcome model should have the following characteristics;

1. The outcome should be stated positively in terms of what we want: The human mind does not directly process a negative. You regular readers will have read that idea over and over in previous editions of Adam Up. Have a read through the Adam Up archive for more information on that notion.

2. The NLP outcome is described in sensory based language: In terms of sights, sounds and sensations; what will we see, hear and feel with that outcome. See how we are forming the outcome, crafting it?

3. Ensure that the NLP outcome is self-initiated and self-controlled: It needs to be something that is not reliant on others in any way. Changing others directly lies outside of our control – changing them indirectly by changing ourselves – we can do that!

4. Make your desired outcome appropriately contextualised: When, where, how and with who do you want this outcome? Detail the context.

Many people that I work with and encounter operate in a stimulus/response mode. Something happens, they respond. Something else happens, they respond. Instead of reacting to various stimuli involved, with outcome based thinking, you are looking at how to control your own world instead. Outcome based thinking allows you to decide what you want and shows you how to achieve it.

Outcome based thinking with NLP is the ability to visualize the precise outcome of a process before beginning that process. It is the ability to set goals and keep them in mind all through the negotiation process.

World class athletes from all over the world use outcome based thinking to achieve top performance in their field. The best golfers visualize a shot before they hit the ball, the best football players imagine scoring a goal before it happens.

Here are a set of very useful questions to ask yourself when forming your desired outcomes in life to ensure that they are really going to serve you well.

Questions to ask oneself for effective outcome based thinking. This can be applied to many situations and circumstances as someone looking to create a desirable outcome. I recommend that you take time write down the answers to these questions and then use the answers to provide you with a skeleton to then hang around the details of your well-formed outcomes for life.

Firstly; What exactly do I want out of the process? Think of the successful conclusion that you expect.

Secondly, if other people are involved in any shape or form ask yourself; What does the other person want? If you don’t know, then think about what are they likely to want?

Thirdly, What is the least I will accept out of the process? Think about the minimum of things that you want to occur in your sessions for you to be satisfied.

Next up, think about (briefly, don’t loiter on this) What problems could come up in the process? Make a note, if not in writing, then in your mind of everything that could arise.

Then, ask yourself; how will I deal with each one and, if possible, use the problem to benefit the outcome? Make a list of possibilities or the things that could crop up, or differences in contract expectations.

Then put together your solutions for remedying that before it occurs. Being prepared to deliver your solutions if and when they arise.

Finally, ask yourself; How will I bring the process to a conclusion? Run this over and over in your mind. You can also ask that wonderful question; how will I know when I have achieved this outcome? Make a note of that. Whenever I ask myself that question in relation to a well formed outcome, it sends a HUGE smile across my face.

Knowing the outcome in advance is exceptionally powerful. So go and begin to design your future, make them as sensory rich as possible. Create them and allow your unconscious mind to deliver the results.

I was listening to a recording recently by a highly acclaimed coach talking about "the horizon." He explained that the horizon does not really exist; that it’s just a mental construct. He made the point that, no matter how fast or how far you travel, you do not and cannot actually reach the horizon. Wherever you are, your brain creates a new horizon ahead of you. Really interesting thought. This notion can be applied to how we go about driving ourselves to create our well-formed outcomes.

So, like the horizon, our NLP well formed outcomes are mental constructs, and not actually aspects of reality. However, and I am getting excited by telling you this, they can be an excellent marker to help us set a direction and keep motivated to creating wonderful sensory rich well formed outcomes. What our outcomes and dreams are not useful for is measuring progress. Let me explain.

People with dreams and NLP well formed outcomes, in my experience, fall into two categories: those who are happily achieving those dreams and fulfilled by them, and those who are lacking fulfilment and dissatisfied with their life.

The main difference between these two groups is that the people who are happy and fulfilled measure their progress by comparing where they are against where they have come from. The people who are stressed and dissatisfied measure progress by comparing where they are against their dreams. Having dreams that are unfulfilled can hinder us and damage our motivation to create powerful well formed outcomes.

So before you go off and start writing your NLP well formed outcomes about making your dreams come true; just think about that idea for a moment; The happy, fulfilled people look at how far they’ve come.

The unhappy, dissatisfied people look at how far they have to go to reach their dreams.

When you bear in mind that the dream, your NLP well formed outcome is in fact just a mental construct that cannot be reached, you can understand why they may have been feeling unhappy and dissatisfied.

So here are some steps to take to avoid dissatisfaction:

Firstly; think of something that you have been working towards for a while or something that you wish to work on. It could be something to do with your health, your finances, your relationships, a habitual change, something you want to overcome, a skill you wish to acquire, or something that you want to do.

Secondly, think of your dream, your desired outcome for this particular area. If you are exploring wealth, your dream might be financial freedom or owning a flashy new car. If you are focusing on health, your dream may be to be a certain size, to stop smoking or to run a mile in a certain time. Hey, it may even be how to stop clinging on to the safe place you might be in life.

Thirdly, have a really good think of where you started. Where were you at when you first decided you were going to do something about it? Really assess that. Get it clear in your mind/

Fourth, now compare where you currently are to your dream or your desired outcome. Now get a sense of how you feel about that.

In the vast majority of cases, people almost certainly find that there is a gap between where you are and your dream, of course, otherwise it would unlikely still be a dream. For some people, thinking about this gap is a disheartening experience. This is the habitual behaviour of unfulfilled people. So resolve to stop doing it today! Please! Just stop it.

Next up, compare where you currently are to where you started. Get a sense of how this feels. Now we are talking.

If you have made any progress at all, it will typically be more and more enjoyable to compare where you are with where you were. This is the habitual behaviour of happy, fulfilled people, of happy high achievers and those developing personally as they want to. This is really crucial in creating well formed outcomes for your life.

Many people have learned to compare themselves to the dream or the desired outcome. But once you know how this works, you can compare yourself to where you started, and feel good about the progress you have made, however minor it may be. The great thing is, that gives you energy and motivation to continue with your journey towards your NLP well formed outcomes.

Adam Eason is an author, consultant, trainer and motivational speaker in the fields of hypnosis, NLP, personal development and human potential. His website is filled with information, stimulating articles, resources and uniques products and can be found here; http://www.adam-eason.com

The Fear of Change has many negative consequences on one’s life. These include all of the following:

1. Perpetuates unfulfilling relationships,

2. Enslaves one in endless self destructive habits,

3. Suffocates one’s creative potential,

4. Leaves one feeling helpless to the whims and expectations of others,

5. Keeps one imprisoned in work that tortures the heart and the soul,

6. Stifles one’s passion for life,

7. Leads to frustration, hopelessness and depression, and last but not least,

8. Leads one to give up on life itself.

Interestingly however how many times have you heard yourself or others say something like, the fear of change protects me from the unknown and thereby keeps me safe and secure? Well if this were true then it would follow that if you are carrying something "on board" that is protecting you in this way, you should not only feel free to try out new things, situations, behaviors, etc but that this would ultimately make you feel confident, carefree and able to fully expand your life in any way you desired.

This however isn’t the case is it? If it was, you wouldn’t have been drawn to this article because it would have absolutely no relevance for you, would it? The fact that you are reading this suggests that you already know that the fear of change is destroying your life. You are probably also becoming aware that the "rationalizations" (see the previous paragraph) you have been buying into do not in any way support the truth about what the fear of change is doing to your life.

There is now a new process called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) which can help you become free of the fear of change once and for all. Yes, you read that correctly! If you want such an experience then please visit the web link below.

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